In the words of Caroline Mchugh, “People who are frightened to be themselves will work for those who aren’t afraid”.
So I figured I should just start writing, without thinking about how I’m coming across. I am doing my own head in thinking about an idea to create the next “perfect” blog post. It’s been weeks and still, nothing has materialised.
Sometimes I feel like I forget why I started blogging. With promoting on social media multiple times a day, networking with a bunch of strangers, preparing newsletters, watching webinars, finding ideas for courses, and trawling through Pinterest. I can’t help but question why? And the answer is because I’ve been told I need a course to succeed, I need to network, I need a newsletter, I need to have thousands of followers and before I know it it’s been weeks, even months since I’ve done the one thing I set out here to do… Write! And quite frankly I’ve felt miserable about it. I feel like a sheep following the herd, instead of trying to be heard. I mean, that’s why we do this, isn’t it? to find our own voice in an otherwise noisy world. My true passion is writing, my “service” is inspiring others and my “followers” as a collective are not important. Each individual follower is important and those that take at least one thing away with them from my writing is my payment. One day I hope to become typically “successful” from this, but not by being like every-one-else. It’s important to STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF, and for a long time, well, I haven’t. Not just in the blogging world, but in life. I’ve lived in fear of being judged because I’ve learned not to step out of the box, I’ve lived in fear of projecting my voice because I’ve learned not to be controversial, I’ve lived in fear of taking action for what I believe in because I’ve learned not to “rock the boat“.
If I’m going to design the life I want to live, I need to live it the way I want to live it. Sometimes we over think everything! and really, all it takes is a simple affirmation…. Today, I’m going to live life my way.
REALISE WHO REALLY MATTERS TO YOU
In a world full of people; friends, family, associates, colleagues, teachers, it can be easy to lose sight of where your priorities lie. We spend 9 hours a day with people we would rather not, and try hard to like it because the other option is to fill the silence with awkward natter just to get through the day. On the other hand, we have those we love to spend time with, but barely get to, and when we finally do, we are usually too burnt out to appreciate it. We try to please those at the top and keep everyone else on a back burner because they’ll always be there. Well, that stops, today. Don’t choose to go to a work event that you don’t have to go to just because you don’t want to upset the boss. Don’t go to lunch with that “friend” that only uses you when they want something, just because you can’t say no. Look at the people that matter to you, they are likely only a handful, but they are the people that make you who you are, who you want to be, they make you the best you, the happy you, the loving you. Life is too short to pretend that anyone else really matters.
PRACTICE WHAT YOU LOVE TO DO
More often than not we find ourselves procrastinating on trivial sh*t instead of truly practising the things that are good for our soul. Either that, or we are busy making someone else rich so they can practice what they love to do. It stops NOW. You only get this one life (we think), so what are you waiting for exactly? Get off your phone, get off your ar*e and really dig deep and get to the heart of what you simply love to do and forget everything else for that moment in time.
FIGHT FOR WHAT YOU BELIEVE IN
We are often afraid to stand up and fight for what we believe in. Being told that we shouldn’t draw attention to ourselves, just to nod and agree and blend into the background. NOPE. If you have something to say and it differs from the majority, SPEAK UP. You get to choose whether you be a wallflower or you stand out from the crowd.
DON’T TRY TO LOOK DIFFERENT TO FIT IN
I think inadvertently we all do this. The media expect women to meet an ideal, so we look out of place if we don’t. But if it’s not YOU, why are you doing it? Over time, and since becoming a Mum, I’ve barely worn makeup or got dressed up. Don’t get me wrong, I love looking nice, but I’m much more comfortable and happier with a clean face and comfortable clothing. I’m not trying to impress anyone these days anyway, and if I’m happier that way, it makes sense.
EMBRACE YOUR QUIRKS
I have many of these, from laughing at my own jokes to randomly breaking into song and dance. I guess I’ve tried to hide them over the years because I am afraid of what people might say, or of drawing unwanted attention to myself. But those quirks are what makes me… me. More importantly, when I embrace them, they make others smile. Why would I want to hide that?
DON’T SUPPRESS YOUR TRUE EMOTIONS
People can usually see straight through false smiles anyway, and I am not an exception to that rule. For many years I was good at putting on a front, but the older I have got, I just cannot be bothered. Plus it is so unhealthy to suppress any type of emotion. So, If I’m miserable, people can deal with it! and if I’m pi**ed off, then watch out!
DON’T BE AFRAID TO ASK FOR HELP
I didn’t like asking for help for a very long time and found my life was harder because of it. I was very stubborn and proud and thought I could do everything by myself. But from time to time, everyone needs help. It doesn’t make you weak, it makes you human and real. So take a load off!
DON’T TRY TO JUSTIFY YOUR ACTIONS
If you don’t want to attend an event, you don’t need to think of a thousand excuses as to why you can’t go. If you need to take time out from your life, do it without fear that those around you will ask 21 questions. In my post 5 bad habits I am trying to k!ck, I talk about exactly the things holding me back and why I want to k!ck them. One of these is being able to say NO without saying anymore.
And if you can’t quite be yourself today, Get up and try again tomorrow 🙂
So who will you be today?
I hope you begin to take the right steps to start being yourself! Be Happy, Be free, Be You!
Let me know if you have any tips on staying true to yourself and avoid following the crowd,