For me life as a new mum started off really well. I didn’t understand other mums saying how hard life with a new baby was, how they were depressed and couldn’t cope. But eventually, it caught up with me, the sleepless nights, the complete change of life, and the loss of identity Now I understand that it isn’t all roses, but it’s real. Here are my sugar-coated-free truths on what being a new mum is really like behind the rose tinted glasses:
BEING ALONE ALL DAY WITH A BABY CAN BE FRUSTRATING AND LONELY
YOU FEEL BAD FOR HAVING ‘ME’ TIME
YOU STAY PATIENT FOR SO LONG BUT GETTING MAD WITH UR BABY IS INEVITABLE WHEN THEY WONT SLEEP AND YOU’RE AT THE END OF YOUR TETHER
YOU ARE EXHAUSTED. END OF.
YOU GET BAD DAYS WHERE YOU QUESTION MOTHERHOOD AND YOUR ABILITY TO DO IT
YOUR RELATIONSHIPS ARE TESTED
YOU DARENT LEAVE YOUR BABY ALONE WITH ANYONE
ITS A 24/7 JOB
BREASTFEEDING IS SORE TO BEGIN WITH. IT IS VERY DEMANDING AND PRETTY STRESSFUL WHEN YOU ARE OUT AND NEED TO FIND SOMEWHERE PRIVATE TO FEED. IF U DONT FEED, YOUR BOOBS FILL UP AND HURT LIKE HELL
EXPRESSING MILK IS A PAIN IN THE ARSE
SOME BABIES JUST SIMPLY WONT GO DOWN DURING THE DAY, MEANING YOU GET NOTHING DONE
YOU FEEL GUILTY THAT THEY CANT TELL YOU WHAT THEY WANT. AND YOU CANT DO ALOT TO ENTERTAIN THEM WHILE THEY ARE SO YOUNG
YOU DONT KNOW IF YOU ARE CREATING BAD HABITS FOR THEM
MOTHER HOOD IS BITTER SWEET. YOU TEACH YOUR BABY NEW THINGS BUT WHEN THEY LEARN SOMETHING YOU FEEL SAD THAT THEYRE BECOMING MORE INDEPENDENT
GOING OUT OF THE HOUSE IS DIFFICULT AND GENERALLY AVOIDED
YOU WORRY WITH YOUR EYES CLOSED
YOU WATCH YOUR BABY SLEEPING IN UR ARMS AND CRY BECAUSE YOU IMAGINE THE DAY THEY’LL NO LONGER NEED YOU
Having a baby is one of the biggest game changers life will ever throw at you, and with it you also change. Read my post on the 10 things that changed me as a new mum, which goes into a little more detail about the changes you can expect to find in yourself when you become a mummy.
I hope you enjoyed this post. Let me know if you would like me to write about anything else mummy related and I’ll give it a shot!